I do not underestimate the courts ability to recognize abuse when it comes before them, I am sure that there have been cases so blatantly obvious, but this is not one of those cases. The need for a trained eye  is essential for a proper ruling, necessary to identify that the plaintiff, John Wallach has committed abuse that he has  hidden very well. The abuse occurring in my mothers home is so insidious, that you would only realize what was happening if you were living under the same roof. I know that once the court examines the supporting documents I am providing this will not fix the issue, and I probably need to re-file my own petition, and have the issues discussed again for resolution. I will attach a filled out DV-100 to my response.

I requested this case be heard before a judge in a matter that holds the fate of my relationship with my mother, as she is named as a protected party in this filing. My mother is my best friend, and preserving my relationship with her is the only reason that I am against the orders that the petitioner has asked for.

In this case I need the court to be aware and be knowledgeable about what a diagnosis of ‘FTD- Alzheimers’ means, (my mother was diagnosed in 2022). I would like to emphasize the vulnerability that overcomes a person who has received this type of diagnosis, and with this in mind, the inherent danger that results from leaving a person without the capacity to understand what is happening, alone with a person whom has previously committed physical abuse against a child. He has also (self proclaimed), and openly divulged that he has untreated and unmanaged ADHD. John also, self-medicates with substances such as alcohol and has formed an unhealthy addiction consuming large quantities of THC, in the form of wax, joints, and edibles. John continuously pressures my mother to partake in consuming these substances, however my mother has adamantly told him no. John continues pressuring my mother about this, and has tried to convince her that she likes it. But I know my mother, she has never liked drugs.

My mom confided in me stating that while she and John were out on a walk, John (without warning) shoved a THC wax syringe into my mother’s mouth. My mom said she needed to go to the hospital and felt sick, to the extent that she thought she was dying. I don’t know the exact date of this occurrence- but I believe it was sometime in fall of 2023

I have consistently strived to focus on what is best for my mother. However, John has made this incredibly difficult through his continuous disregard for her boundaries and well-being, which includes excessive control over her finances, medical decisions, and daily life. I have documented the extremes of John’s actions- video, audio, and transcribed omissions regarding his past acts of abuse, as well as present. I am prepared to present this to authorities & the court, I have collected proof that will prove that Johns’ behaviors are primarily centered around his need to cover up his past abuse (he committed against me), his current negligence regarding my mother’s medical and emotional needs, as well as his lack of understanding the harm he causes by manipulating my mother in her fragile state, he improperly attempts to serve his own needs before my mothers, he is cruel and relentlessly attempting to weaken the trust and respect that I have earned over a lifetime, John actively seeks to eradicate and sever the relationship that I share with my mother- all stemming from his own personal dislike towards me for exposing his  abuse that he inflicted.

While this may sound however it may sound, it is important to explain the dynamics of the family here, I noticed that John hasn’t said enough in his filing, perhaps he hoped I would not show up for court, I want to make it very clear that the importance of bringing this matter before a judge is crucial. I was in the process of making a similar proposal to the court, but this has become a nerve wracking process, I struggle with my own physical health (and some undesirable symptoms), multiple doctors appointments each week, while providing care to my mother (I am not complaining whatsoever) she relies on me at any given time of the day or night- I have been her ‘go to’ person for over 2 years. John has suddenly become intolerant of the relationship between mom and I, John has been disruptive and has asserted an unreasonable amount of interference and intentional harassment intended to meddle with my bond with my mother.  John  imposes rules that he forces my mother to follow via threat- demanding that she stop speaking to me, and he will not allow me to do my mothers hair. These are the small things, but this filing is a huge misuse of the court system, and John seeks to immediate result without any of the elements that would support an “elder abuse” claim.. and distracting from the actual abuse that he commits against my mother.

It is  unfair to force my mother to make painful decisions about her children, for him to dictate who she can and cannot speak to, has contributed to the progression of her disease. Instances of John manipulating my mom. In this way has caused my mother to come to me crying looking for reassurance, and seeing my mother like this has caused an enormous amount of stress for both of us. The strain John has placed on our relationship has intensified, I am reaching burnout.

In an effort to establish a healthier dynamic and ensure my mother’s well-being, I have tried to advocate for boundaries that would allow her to have the care and respect she deserves. Unfortunately, John has refused to cooperate, continuing his harmful behavior. His ongoing mistreatment must come to an end. It is crucial that both of us prioritize my mother’s health and dignity, showing mutual respect for her autonomy and her needs during this vulnerable time in her life. We both need to respect each others roles in my mothers life; we are all importantto my mother, and she loves her children equally. There is no question that she is loyal to her husband, but I believe that John has an unbalanced sense of importance as his role as her husband. John has overstepped his authority since my mother has become incompetent- he is crossing boundaries that trample my mother’s autonomy: John seeks to manipulate my mother, so that her views would align with his needs. John wishes to have nothing to do with me, but I am still my mother’s only daughter, and he cannot eliminate me from her life just because he does not care about me.

John’s filing is based on the belief that he can simply eliminate me from his life by including my mother as a party to this case, an elder abuse filing. I have not committed any crimes against my mother, or him. John’s filing is an abuse of process. John filed this petition December 6, 2024, immediately after throwing a hot flat iron at me– On that day, my mother asked me to do her hair- I was getting my mother dressed and ready for a doctor appointment. I have audio, and transcript of the incident December 6, 2024. John lied to the police, just as he has done in the past.

John’s filing brings harmless aspects that relate to agreements that are between my mother and I, and an unopened box containing “The Sun Goddess Barbie.”

Any handling of money, has nothing to do with him, and has never been an issue. In fact, John has never asked me about any transactions, but I imagine that he is not concerned about the reasons, he plans to manipulate my mother, and have her spread the information to individuals who my mother is close with. John seeks to give the impression that i have acted improperly regarding financial affairs-

he has threatened my mother, giving her ultimatums that would remove me from her life, or else she would lose all claim to assets and home. John has resorted to harmful tactics in order to break the closeness that I have shared with my mother. He has attempted to use her disability to his advantage, it has been incredibly upsetting and has caused me a considerable amount of stress to watch as he manipulates my mother to say certain things to family and over hearing him telling her (to say this, or say that) or telling her to act a certain way towards me. John has continuously spoken ill of me, in front of my mother, oftentimes encouraging her to engage in verbal abuse. John actively seeks to change the way my mother feels towards me, destroying trust, and harming her beliefs towards me- by continuous accusations of theft, and repeatedly telling my mother that I am “dangerous” he has continuously lied to my mom, and has used fear as a weapon to control my mother.

I am not dangerous, I have never caused anyone harm, and I do not have any violent convictions violent crimes. I restate- John actively seeks to eliminate me, but he knows he must weaken my relationship with my mother, in order to make my mother speak accordingly before the court. Dec 18, 2024 I filed a DV100 against John Wallach, naming my mother as a protected party. I was partially granted a TRO until the hearing- and john disregarded the order to the fullest extent. Despite the obvious fact that he had violated and was told that he was in violation, the sheriff’s department did not arrest John. It was as if he had no fear of being held accountable. Two days before my hearing, John had stolen my phone, locked me out of the house, and accused me of breaking a window, he also sent my mother upstairs to demand that she be given her medication out side of her regular routine.  (I had observed that John was improperly handling medication times, and consulted with my mother’s neurologist, who suggested that I hand my mother the medications myself. I attempted to make this suggestion to John, however he dismissed my concerns, consequently resulting in my mother overdosing. I have learned, that this was not the first occurrence, and John had knowledge of it, and had not taken her to the emergency and still did not eliminate the possibility of it happening again. He began to yell at her at medication time. My mother’s mental health has only gotten worse, while her condition progressively worsened from John yelling)

(John did not like that i assisted my mother, and he insists that she continue on as if she hadn’t been diagnosed with FTD. This carries a considerable amount of risk, and potential for serious harm to my mother, especially because John has not provided the necessary supervision while he forces her to carry through with tasks she no longer feels confident about. There will be certain things that will no longer be safe for my mother to complete independently- such as cooking or allowing her to administer her own medication, leaving my mother home by herself for 12+ hours a day as John continues to work outside of the home. My mother no longer knows how to use the microwave or the oven, since I have been home, I have cooked her breakfast, lunch, sometimes dinner, I have I have kept my mother by me, at my doctors appointments, I have assisted mom in showering, getting dressed each morning, I have preformed house cleaning, dish washing, changing the bedding and washing her laundry, these tasks my mother cannot complete independently anymore. A reality that John avoids.

The underlying problems that John feels toward me is something that I cannot resolve for him. While it is true that my mother loves her husband, it is also realistic to observe that john presence is something toxic, have forgiven John for his past abuse and behavior against me, have kept an open mind, but I will not forget. I stand here, holding firmly to the truth about events that happened during my childhood. As a minor, I was physically abused by the plaintiff, John Wallach. I reported the abuse at the time of its occurrence.  But, John managed to escape facing any liability. John manipulated several people  and giving a completely false alternate narrative about what occurred. John lied to the authorities, CPS, and my entire family; John pointed the blame onto me: John accused me of lying about being abused, he’s  tried to rewrite the past by telling my mom a different version of things, saying that I had attacked him, or provoked him to commit the abuse. That isn’t how it happened, and there is no excuse.

John refuses to seek appropriate treatment for his explosive anger issues. He has no intention to take responsibility for the damage he has caused, he is willing to destroy my mothers mental health, as well as mine, as if his hate driven needs were superior to the well being of others. In order to preserve the false narrative he presents today, he has enlisted false witnesses to testify for him in court. I say this with confidence, that I have never broken character, or acted in a manner that would align with the way John would like to portray me as. I have witnessed John is directing my mother to call up her brother (Bassam) and tell him that I have been violent, a disappointment, etc. this has only benefited John in gaining someone who has no idea what is literally occurring on the other end of the phone, before that conversation began. My mother repeated what John has told her to say, and john would then instruct my mother,  “Now call Bassam and tell him that.”

I know that my mom still remembers the abuse that I endured,, she will acknowledge what I endured growing up when I have brought it up to her., I have audio documentation and  transcripts of my mother and I speaking about the way John treated me when I was younger. I also have audio and transcription of omissions made by John confessing to the abuse. I  realize that my mother does not like discussing this subject, “rehashing the past” as she would say. My mother hasn’t broken  silence about the abuse that John committed against me. What she doesn’t understand, is that he will reoffend, and she has become his target.

At the time, she chose to protect her husband’s image, for the purpose of preventing CPS from removing their two sons. These are John’s natural children with her,  whom were only ages 1 & 2 at the time of my reporting- and would not remember the abuse as they were very young.

John’s disgust with me stems back to when I was a minor, the fact that I reported that i had been verbally and physically abused by John— and 26 years later he finally admitted that had happened,. The events that occurred during my childhood have my made life difficult. He has said mean things,  called me names, In front of my mother, he has even encouraged her to do the same. John has said that he has never loved me, has gone as far as said that he regretted adopting me. On August 19, 2024 John explained that he hated me because I had reported him for the abuse he committed. Stating “Rebecca almost destroyed this family” because cps could have taken away his son’s.

John has invented a new defense, that would serve to discredit me for the APS calls i have made against John for his abusive behaviors to my mother. John falsely states to authorities that I have a “personality disorder.” (I have never been diagnosed with this)  

In preparation for this case, I have sought out two Neuro-psych testing I received similar diagnosis’s from both doctors:  (major depressive disorder, general anxiety disorder/distressed anxiety and traumatic brain injury)

I realize that my adoptive father lacks the ability to understand that my mother’s life is not his life. What works for him does not necessarily work for my mother. I cannot fix the hatred my adoptive father, John feels towards me. If something is troubling John, he needs to address this in a private setting, with a provider that can help him improve his unhealthy thinking, and he can work through any unresolved hatred towards me, and his desire to violate the rights of others is inappropriate- I am not a doctor, but I have a feeling that John will find peace if he begins to understand himself better.

Regarding any kind of accusations of financial abuse, I am attaching proof of John Wallach’s knowledge of transactions and the matching information, dates, and text messages that corroborate to previous transactions. I would like to show the court a habit repayment was not returned to John, but was always repaid to my mother. It was not an act of financial abuse. John all access to finances, I bought my mother a fountain ($300) for Mother’s Day, and I set it up outside in the backyard in her line of sight from where she typically sat on the couch. My mom recalled a beautiful rose garden she had been growing in the backyard (where the fountain sits) she wondered where the roses went. My mother went to John and told him that he never bought her anything for her birthday nor for Mother’s Day. John gave her back her card. My mom and I went to “Lowe’s” and she picked out roses and bought them.

I do remember asking my mother if I could give her cash to pay a bill electronically, saving me from going in to the DMV for payment. I gave my mother the money in an envelope, I do not trust that John will be honest about revealing the existence of the envelope. John has been controlling of my mothers finances for sometime now, he has gone to the extent of removing money from her that she has made by collecting recyclables. I recall my mother was happy accepting repayment, eventually providing information to John, that I had paid back if I had owed, borrowed from John.

However, John never confronted me about any transactions that concerned him. John never confronted me about any transactions involving my mother. John accuses me of financial abuse, but I love my mother, and I value her much, to much, to ever misuse my mother.

I have proof of John’s past and current withholding and access to money from her bank accounts John has added himself as a primary beneficiary, placing a life insurance policy on my mother, I found a letter written by my mother herself– (that John have in fact been the one who has financially abused my mother, it appears that this has been an ongoing occurrence, not something new, and not as a safety measure that was executed to prevent abuse from occurring due to her diagnosis.

(as it’s dated 2/4/19, -and my mother was diagnosed with FTD 03/11/2022)

To my knowledge, no credit cards have been used in John’s name, all transfers via Zelle were willingly and knowingly made by John.

I deny the allegations of financial abuse. I have proof of past electronic exchanges with John and can prove that any money received was not fraudulent in any way.