Declaration Statement 

Case Number: 24PSRO02393

Submitted by Rebecca Wallach 

12-21-2024

 

I certify that the information given is true and complete to the best of my knowledge. I understand that if I have deliberately given any false information or have withheld any information regarding any situation, I am liable for prosecution for fraud and/or perjury. 

 

 

The petitioner John Wallach‘s filing has no bearing of truth- I say this without knowing what the allegations he has made are.

I have been improperly served by John Wallach, via text message,

“There is a court date tomorrow to hear a request to the court for restraining order against you.  Of course,  you are entitled to attend.  You have the paper work but the Case number is 24PSRO02393, 8:30 am Whittier court. You can access the case remotely through the LA superior court website.”

 

I am unaware of the accusations he has made, and I do not have the paperwork.

John  has accused me of a number of things, each accusation is baseless, and  are baseless- and there is no truth or evidence to support his continuous slander. . 

John’s’ intention for filing is a form of harassment and abuse, this is a typical, reoccurring issue.

John is attempting to vent out his anger and resentments through his position as my mother’s husband. John has engaged in inconstant false accusations, berating me, in front of my mother who has FTD (diagnosed in March 2023)

 

In reality, nothing has been removed, nothing has been stolen, nothing has been done that violates John’s rights, or his privacy. 

However I will not stand by and allow him to abuse my mother- on those occasions I felt it was in the interest of justice to, gather evidence of his behavior, and any admittance of abuse that he had previously evaded.

John seeks to improperly interfere with my relationship with my mother. 

 

John is distracting from the real issue occurring here, and this case serves as a distraction from something John has committed against my mother- and among other things. I will explain.

The extent ranges from:  co-signing a car, without my mother’s consent- or ability to pay for it- & other things like my mom stating that she did not wish to vote- so John took this upon himself to vote as my mom on her ballot. He told her it needed to be a “secret” — To threats such as John stating “Sorry to burden you but this had gone on far too long, (30 years) my sister thinks I’m clueless to tolerate destructive behavior and be in this situation. She says I should leave immediately. As a precursor to our discussion. Consider this, I am going to demand (I have access to legal resources) that Eman remove Rebecca from our home/life or she (Eman) loses all claim to the house and assets.”  

Johns goals are to sever my mothers relationship with me- John’s misuse of his position- has an impacted my mothers mental health- just like how he resorted to threatening my mother by saying that her son (Alex) would “not talk to her ever again, because she speaks to Rebecca” John even went as far as to say that Alex was in town and he went out to lunch with Alex but didn’t want to invite my mom because mom is “just like Rebecca”

My uncle Bassam confirmed that Alex was not in town. John was lying about the whole thing, and he was manipulating my mother.

This situation stands out to me, my mom cried herself to sleep several nights because of the hurtful things John has said to her.

 

John has also intentionally neglected my mother’s medical needs for 2 years, Since my mom recently reached out to me for help- I became involved and realized the gravity of John’s misconduct. 

Now John seeks to improperly use the court system to mute me, and further delay and distract from my mother’s needs. 

John is manipulating the legal process, which I believe will give way for the courts to decide. 

 

John told my mom and our whole family, that I did not provide insurance information to the dentist, 

Then John accused me of not giving the doctor’s office or CVS pharmacy my mom’s correct birthdate- and again told my mom and our family. 

Jon has told my little brother that “ I don’t take care of my health,” which is completely false- at least 2x days a week- I am at my oncology appts- and I receive weekly infusions. This caused my brother to tell my mother (well why would you listen to somebody who doesn’t take care of themself?)

 

John accused me of giving the doctors or dentist the wrong health records altogether, he told this to my uncle Bassam. 

Then told the family that my mom got a tooth pulled for no reason, and he told the family this as well. 

 

I made the appointments and had John take my mom in for the procedures because John held the money, and I couldn’t afford the amount due. 

John had the opportunity to ask what he was paying for, and confirming that all the information was correct. 

I only made the appointments, and took my mom to 1 evaluation, with the oral surgeon. John has taken her the procedures and paid. 

John began accusing me of hurtful slanderous things the moment that I realized that John had medically neglected my mother, denying her visits with several referred specialists, denying her ability to receive treatment for an ongoing infection that began in 2021- for over 2 years- John denied my mother access to referred specialists and physicians that she desperately needed, allowing an infection in from a fractured maxillary molar, a previously treated root canal, to spread throughout my mother’s right sinus. John did not attempt to mention this to anyone, and he did not have a second opinion from any other neurologist.  (if he didn’t like what the previous one had to say) 

 

Despite this- my mother’s symptoms worsened, John. When I asked John “what’s up with Mom? 

He maintained that “nothing was wrong”

But clearly- something was wrong. 

I didn’t know my mother had previously been seen by a neurologist before, nor did, I know that the one that she had seen over two years ago had made recommendations that John ignored. 

 

I noticed that my mom would put her finger inside her mouth and poke at an upper molar on the right side of her mouth.

 

My mom handed me opened, and unpaid bills from “Pavilion Neurology”

I called Pavilion and found out that my mom hadn’t been seen there in over a year and a half, and that there were recommendations that were made that would improve my mom’s quality of life. 

 

Based upon the recommendations from the neurologist- I started getting the family involved, with their input on where to take my mother, and I made an oral surgeon appointment, and ENT appointment with those physicians that my mom’s brother (my uncle) & his wife (my aunt Laura)- encouraged me to make the appointment with their trusted specialists. 

John continued to work 12+ hour days, disregarding my mother’s needs. 

(He previously left her alone all day) 

But now, I am home, I help my mother. 

 

John insisted that my mother’s medication be taken independently, despite this no longer being appropriate. 

My mom stated that she wanted to kill herself because of the way John screamed and yelled at her- for not being able to do what she used to be able to do. 

Despite my mom telling John that she wanted to kill herself- Jon still insisted that she take her medication on her own, which is how her overdose happened. And even after the overdose, John insisted still that she administer her medication on her own. 

 

John constantly forces my mom to navigate tasks that she cannot complete on her own anymore- yelling at her at the top of his lungs when she cannot. Even if it risky and unsafe for my mom. 

John becomes very mean- yells at her and criticizes her for no longer being able to take care of herself or do things around the house because of her diagnosis, a diagnosis that my mother has no control over. John forces my mother to self neglect. 

John began to improperly drive a wedge between my mother and I. 

My mom would call me daily whenever John was “mean to her” 

My mom feels comfortable asking me for help, and has always had a close relationship me. 

Before I moved back home, my mom called me multiple times a day begging me to pick her up. 

So I would drive to my mothers house despite me recovering from spinal surgery (April 2023)— and I would pick up my mother with my neck brace on. 

 

John proceeded to put a password on my mother’s phone, then he blamed me. 

He blamed me, and told my mom, (look you can’t get on your phone anymore because of Rebecca) 

He said that I had put a password on her phone and he manipulated my mom into believing that I had the password and that I (would not give her the password) 

I was dumbfounded.

My mom was very upset- (given the false information) she had every right to be. 

John went on to be sure and give this misleading information to immediate family members, and extended family- as well- the same way he had called up our family members in other instances providing fabricated information. 

 

John provided the family with false information- telling them that I had not given/provided my mom’s health insurance information when I’d taken my mom to doctors’ appointments that I recently scheduled for her. 

Ever since John realized that he had been medically neglecting her- he began to curse and scream louder the moment I said a word.

(my attempts at communication are not hostile) 

 

This made interacting with family even more awkward, but most tension was felt between Mom and me. 

All of my progress in helping mom relearning, & reteaching her over and over (how to use her phone) went out the window. 

John has encouraged my mom to not trust me, without merit- he attempts to isolate her. 

My mom shuts down and declines further when he criticizes her, yells at her, and forces her to navigate tasks alone. 

 

Depression complicates learning, it makes healing even harder. 

 

We need to take precautions, just like you wouldn’t leave a baby alone in a home, just like you would not let them play with fire or knives. Just like you wouldn’t allow them to administer their own medicine. Just like you would “childproof” your home, to keep a vulnerable person safe. 

Removing hazards from walkways, keeping adequate/ dim lighting at night where it’s dark. 

You take those precautions. That is what Family does for each other. We care for each other regardless of age- Mom did this for us when we were children, she did what she could to protect us. 

 

My mom cared for John after he was in a bad car accident (in the late 1990s). 

I am blown away seeing the way John treats her now that she needs help.

 

 

Some changes needed to be made around the house. Making those changes would eliminate risks of harm, fall hazards, and clutter, and would improve lighting, spatial awareness, and the safety of my mom’s environment. Mom’s medication times- were not being handled appropriately and I had brought this concern up with my mom’s physicians. 

They suggested that I hand my mom her medication myself. 

John was furious that my mother was being assisted, Jon yelled and yelled and yelled, and the only way to diffuse the situation was to let him have his way. 

Even though it was wrong. He prevented me from assisting my mom at medication time, and he insisted that my mom continue administering medications on her own.  Leading to her overdose on November 5 2024.

The morning after my mom overdosed John towered over her at the kitchen table,  yelling at her for not understanding how to fill her pill organizer, while she pulled pills from the medication bottle, crying. 

I intervened- politely asking my mom to join me in a separate room, and engaging her in a private phone call with her brother(Bassam).

My mom tragically overdosed on her medication, consuming the entire pill organizer- this is the outcome of John wanting my mom to continue taking her medications independently and without supervision. 

My mom approached me and told me what she had done, 

I then communicated this to John. 

He did not want to drive my mom to the hospital. So I called my mom’s brother (Bassam) he then called my mom’s phone and convinced John to take her to the emergency room, this overdose was potentially life-threatening. 

My uncle then ordered a lock box for medications- and had it delivered to our house. 

I take my mom’s well-being seriously I will not encourage her to self-neglect, as John suggests she should. I thoroughly examined each room for meditations sorted through each pill container, appropriately disposed of expired medications, and placed the ones to keep in the locked box, which opens on a timer. 

 

 

 

Just like on other concerns, John responded aggressively towards the precautions I had made in the home,  alterations to keep my mother safe. 

John ripped out motion-activated (dim lights) from under my mom’s bed, and the stairway. His anger, and reluctance to accept the reality of the situation are not only harming my mom’s mental health but also a danger to her life. 

John doesn’t understand that making these changes would enable my mom’s independence, so she can resume living a productive happy lifestyle without being exposed to the harms that a healthy individual wouldn’t realize. 

 

Despite my mother vocalizing that she had trouble seeing and that she had also vocalized that she no longer could administer her medications, as well as my mom having suicidal thoughts. John is aware of this too. 

 

No changes have occurred within John’s capacities, he only wishes to gain control over my mother’s affair and not coordinate with her best interests in mind. 

 

My mom began hallucinating and was crying nearly every day, she had cysts forming in her groin from inadequate showering- (especially after taking long walks with John and his dog) 

 

John began to drive a wedge between my mom and me. 

John is actively working on preventing my mom from relying on me- and encourages my mom to approach him. 

However, in her attempts to obey his requests, she has been met with frustration anger, and yelling. 

 

John frequently berates me in front of my mom, constantly telling my mom that I am dangerous, and telling her that recent medical appointments were unnecessary. He has even told my mom that I am no longer allowed in their bedroom (for no reason) 

 

The entire reason for entering my mom’s bedroom while she is present is to assist her in showering, dressing her, cleaning her bedroom, washing their bedsheets, and cleaning their bathroom. 

 

John continues to work, leaving my mom alone- 12 or more hours a day. 

Before i moved back home, my mother went without any breakfast, lunch, or even dinner some days. My mother does not clean the home thoroughly, she does not adequately wash the dishes(however I encourage her to, and will discreetly place them in the dishwasher afterward) she does not shower herself, which in the past, she may have done so without prompting. 

My mom now needs help applying body wash to the loofa- (I allow her to wash independently, and I turn around giving her privacy) I apply shampoo and conditioner to her hair and I wash her hair, allowing her to rinse off independently, while I gather her clothes and wait for her to say- “Im finished” I then would hand her the towel. 

My mom needs help picking appropriate clothes depending on the weather, she needs assistance getting dressed, and she needs prompting throughout the toothbrushing process,(assistance applying the toothpaste)

 I help her wash her laundry, as she no longer is able to use the washer and dryer. 

My mother fell down the stairs before I moved home, she told me about it and said it happened because John doesn’t not allow her to turn on the lights in the house at night.

 

My mom was diagnosed in 2022 with “narrowing vision” by an eye specialist. So I went ahead and installed motion sensor lighting on the stairway to prevent falls. 

I am constantly picking up electrical cords, power tools and other obstructions John had left lying on the ground, and paper from the ground, I pick up his clothes from the walkways and I have also added dim motion sensor lighting under my mother’s bed (on her side) to help my mom see but John ripped this out and told my mom to give it back to me. When he saw that I had purchased a shower chair for my mom,  he threw that out of the shower- bending the leg. 

I purchased these items with my own money. I never asked for reimbursement. 

 

What I am seeing happening to my mom scares me. 

It scares me because John physically abused me when I was a minor, Johns maltreatment growing up is a memory that will never go away. 

I have forgiven him, kept an open mind,  but I haven’t forgotten. 

Referrals held by CPS:

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0941195190372020082

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Its true that John’s behavior caused me a huge setback in life. 

As a result of me reporting him as a minor, John has held onto a deep rooted resentment towards me, and uncontrollable anger

John stated that he resented me because when I reported him him as a minor he could have lost his two boys(my brothers)

So now, He offers more support to his biological child, than I- and he does not not allow my mom to, but she has in the past.

John constantly portrays me in a negative light, resorting to fabricated stories or suggesting scenarios that he would conjure up to instill fear about me- sometimes even accusing me of doing the things that HE Has done, himself- Then telling my uncles, aunts, even grandparents causing them to have a step back in their feelings towards me. 

If my mom ever spent any money with me, John would take her money away from her. 

John abused me as a minor, and he evaded the consequences he inflicted upon me. He boasts to this day- about how he got away with what he had done to me, I decided to record him. AUG 19, 2024. 

In this recording: John admitted that he had abused me, mirroring the things that I had reported myself back in 1999 – 2000 but in greater detail than I had reported. I can prove that John had done this to me and I can prove that John is unfit to be around my mother, a vulnerable adult, and his inappropriateness in my mother’s life. I have documented some of the abuse current abuse. 

 

I have been my mother’s carer for the past year. (Tiptoeing around John- 

As he does not allow me to help her) however, when John is at work, my mom disregards his rules. 

 

(It cannot go on this way and I realize we need the help of the court). 

I have called APS, I have called my mother’s primary, and I called the nonemergency number at the Walnut-Diamond Bar Sheriff’s Department. 

John’s behavior is harmful to my mom. 

 

I celebrate all the things mom can do, Even the mundane little things are a huge blessing! I knew that one day she wouldn’t be able to do those things so I celebrated the things that she could do to try to make up for all the yelling and criticizing from John. 

 

My mother’s confusion and distrust lingered, and it took time to rebuild that trust. John’s manipulation has not only affected my relationship with my mom but also strained relationships with other family members who are fed misinformation and lies.

John’s actions have consistently shown that his goal is to alienate me from my mother and to control her life and decisions entirely. He’s using his position as her husband to gain power over her finances, health, and personal autonomy, and now he is attempting to abuse the legal system to further isolate me from her. This restraining order is a blatant example of this abuse.

This is not just a personal dispute; it is about my mother’s well-being and safety. I have tried to address these concerns through family discussions, and I’ve involved Adult Protective Services and healthcare professionals, but John’s ongoing interference and abusive behavior prevent any meaningful change. He continues to exert control over her medical decisions, ignore her needs, and put her health at risk.

I am seeking the court’s protection not for myself, but for my mother. She deserves to live in a safe, supportive environment where she is cared for and respected, not neglected, manipulated, or abused. John’s behavior is harming her mentally, physically, and emotionally, and the court must intervene to prevent further harm.

I respectfully ask the court to deny John’s restraining order request and instead focus on protecting my mother, whose health and well-being are at risk due to John’s actions. I am committed to her care, and I will continue to do everything in my power to ensure she receives the support and protection she needs.

 

Continues to use manipulation, false claims, and control tactics to try to isolate my mother from me and to prevent me from providing her with the care she needs. His intention is not to help my mother but to maintain control over her and our family, which I have repeatedly witnessed. He has put my mother’s life at risk and continues to gaslight me, blaming me for things I did not do, while taking advantage of her vulnerability.

As a result, I firmly believe that John is unfit to be my mother’s primary caregiver and that his actions—both past and present—demonstrate a pattern of neglect, abuse, and manipulation. His behavior toward me as a child and now toward my mother as an adult with cognitive decline is unacceptable and harmful. It is time for the court to intervene and ensure that my mother’s well-being and safety are prioritized over John’s desire for control.

I am ready to present all evidence, including recordings of his admissions, medical records, and testimony from family members and specialists, to support my claims and protect my mother’s rights, dignity, and health. It is my deepest hope that the court will see through John’s false claims and take action to prevent further harm to my mother.