John’s sister sent me a message on Facebook messenger, asking me what my plans were for December. I told her that I haven’t thought it out yet.. All I know is that I don’t plan on leaving my mom alone with her brother. John has offended before, and he will do it again.
That’s just the way humans are🤷🏻‍♀️

Sure, some people have the ability to remedy issues, confronting them with honesty, and sincere remorse.
But, don’t be fooled, John has the opportunity to reoffend, this time against my mother.
John is still filled with anger.

The fact that I’m here for my mom, angers him.
John is not willing to help my mom. He has ignored her diagnosis and he has expectations that my mom just cannot meet anymore and he thinks that yelling at her and putting her down he’s going to make My mom change, but my mom can’t help what’s happening to her !
I’m sure If she had the choice, she wouldn’t want to be this way !

John hates me! He tells my mom that she’s starting to act “just like Rebecca”

he’s told the police that he regretted adopting me.

and the fact I cried out for help as a minor-

Angers him even more because,

he could’ve lost his two boys to CPS…

(because he abused me.

& I reported it).

(And somehow, that’s my fault) ?

Seems that John was given a “get out of jail free card” only because he was “willing” to address the concerns-

But he didn’t uphold his vow to change.

It’s terrifying to watch what’s happening to my mother.

(John is my adoptive father.)

(Jessica is John Sister)

(She lives in Indiana)

My response to Jessica::

I know you said that we should do family therapy. John deceives you when he says that we have “never tried that before.”
We have been down this road.

John and my mom have never sat in for any of my own therapy sessions.
John and my Mom attended their own therapy sessions- & those sessions had nothing to do with me.
Johns unhealthy parenting skills, and his inability to understand “why” mistreating children is harmful seemed to be the focus of why he was participating in marriage counseling sessions.

I did not participate In any of those sessions.
the times that I was present (with the both of them) – would technically be “family therapy sessions” 👍

I was not the focus of the conversation though, & it appeared to me that— John had a lot to work on. (a lot more than I did).

I did fine at Vista Del Mar. I was happy that I was safe from the physical abuse that John perpetrated. The only time I was “unstable” was when I was home. John physically abused me daily.

Vista by the way, was not a behavioral health center, it was child and family services. It was an adoption center.
http://www.VistaDelMar.org

(Those are facts. )

John WILL NOT and CAN NOT rewrite the past, even if my mom’s memory is fading, he will not succeed in turning this into an issue that I was ever the cause of. 

He thinks because he got away with something so serious back then, that it meant that he would be able to say that I was the problem. 

It won’t happen. There are plenty of people who know the truth and they will stand behind everything I’m saying. John is a liar. 
JOHN IS AN ALCOHOLIC, & Alcohol is a drug.

He’s no better than anyone— by the way he self medicates using THC, WAX, & edibles. John admits that he uses this substance ‘six out of seven days a week’,

(but let’s not kid ourselves here) Honestly.

* if you’re using it that much… you’re using it every day.*

He admits that he has ADHD- he is self medicating and since his insurance is so great, he should have no problem getting himself a great psychiatrist for him to get healthy. 

I’ve come a long way, and nothing John says will diminish that! 

It took a long time for me to earn back trust and John keeps talking shit about me. 

His smear campaign will bite him in the ass. 

Time will prove what he has done. 

I’ve been administering mom’s medications, starting the evening after the overdose. 

The cops were sent to the house to make sure that my mom was not being left alone here, and to make sure someone was in charge of the medications. Saint Jude’s reported the overdose to APS, not me. 
I have called, several times, but my mom keeps declining their services.

The morning (after the overdose), John towered over my mom as she sat at the table crying. John yelled at her, forcing her to fill a pill organizer, and she just didn’t understand what she was supposed to do.

My mom told me that the overdose was intentional .
This is not a surprise, because she did warn us of this at least a month ago, She told John She wanted to kill herself —because he was trying to isolate her.

(My mom doesn’t want to be left alone with him).
But if you ask her that today, she will deny it.

My uncle, sent us a lock box to put the medications in-there is no code- it just opens on a timer. (Thank you Bassam)

John keeps yelling at my mom, telling her to get the pills from me “so he can administer them” 

I don’t hold the pills, they’re in the locked box. The box is sitting on the counter downstairs.
Why does John keep trying to break into my room? He doesn’t even knock? Just picks the lock, because he was under the impression that I “wasn’t home” ? but, I was home. I was sitting just on the other side of the door.
This is getting ridiculous.

I decided to see how he would handle it, and again, he had my mom administering her own meds again, and she almost overdosed. 

We were going to run out of my moms pills early this month, because of the overdose- 

& I gave John a week in advance ‘heads up’ so he could order more, and he immediately dismissed the warning. 

Well. We ran out of pills and John didn’t reorder them.

He excused himself by saying they would not let him reorder more, because “it said she had enough pills and wouldn’t allow the order” 

(Excuses). This is typical of John.

I went online and I was able to order them easily. 

John procrastinates terribly.
If you don’t believe a word that I’m saying to you Jessica- 

Believe this.

My mom had a sinus infection, that began in 2021. The infection is ONLY on the right side of her face. The SAME side as that fractured tooth.

When I found all of this out, around September- I started getting family involved. 

No one had any idea any of this was going on!  

John called our entire family and told them that my mom’s tooth was pulled out for “no reason”

The tooth was fractured. 

The tooth was also previously treated with a root canal. 

It was an upper, maxillary molar, on the RIGHT SIDE.

That tooth became infected, the infection spread to mom’s sinus. 

That infection is still spreading.

Now my mom has problems with her vision. 

I was curious to know if the sinus infection was the cause – so I called my mom’s eye specialist. 

The last time she was seen was November of 2022. The complaints that brought my mom in to their office was for symptoms that resembled glaucoma.

But that wasn’t the diagnosis. 

She was diagnosed with “narrowing vision”

So the sinus infection began in 2021 

vision & blood pressure spiked 2022 

& her memory changes began in 2023. 

If the fractured tooth was the cause of my mom’s sinus inflammation- (then that tooth must have fractured around 2021 also)

My mom went to Saint Jude’s several times complaints about this sinus infection back in 2021. 

Saint Jude chalked up the sinus infection as “allergies”

claiming her ongoing sinus infection,

was due to a “new dog”

If Saint Jude’s doesn’t own up to this misdiagnosis, it could cost my mom her life-  and could offer John- a way out of accountability- yet again. Just as always, he manages to differ the blame onto someone else. John has never been held accountable for his own actions.

It was irresponsible-on John’s behalf to ignore the neurologists recommendations. It was careless of John to not have a second opinion, and do nothing for 2 years.

I knew something was up- when he said “they found nothing” i couldn’t believe “nothing was wrong”

Clearly, something was wrong. Anyone who knows my mom, could see, something was definitely wrong. Mom needed help, she needed a doctor, and with these things- treatment seems to be more effective when it’s still early.

I question John’s motives to exclude family from having the information that he has kept hidden, and claims that he “didn’t know” or they “didn’t tell him.”

They did tell him.

John did nothing with the recommendations. Two years later, I find out- and he’s upset at me because my mom asked me for help- which prompted me to make appointments- and after speaking with those doctors, I’m realizing John is seriously neglecting my mom, he’s financially abusing her, and he’s manipulating her and our family into believing that “all this was done for no reason” ?

I’ve never known a doctor would do perform services if it wasn’t needed there has to be some kind of evidence behind it. There has to be some kind of issue that brought my mom to the doctor in the first place hence the referral from the primary doctor.
Depending on the decisions that John makes now- in regards to my mom’s health, and how diligent he chooses to be in getting her the care she needs- and her treatment plan- it could cost my mom her life. 

My mom has never had allergies to animals. She has never had significant allergies seasonally. 

Why was this overlooked? 

Once my mom began having memory issues, St. Jude’s referred her to a Neurologist. 

Jan. 2023* The “HORRIBLE NEUROLOGIST” ordered imaging of my mom’s brain, and coincidentally found the cause of Eman’s ongoing sinus infection naming it the area of concern. ( tooth #2  inciting her sinus inflammation) 

The recommendations were for my mom to see the ENT AND THE DENTIST. 

Mom’s ANA was high, she was referred to rheumatology too. 

They order ct scans of her abdomen, & mra of her brain. 

They ordered speech therapy and physical therapy. 

All of these suggestions were made in MARCH 2023. 

Jessica- since finding out all this information, I have only tried to get Mom healthy again. 

I got the appointment with the oral surgeon, who confirmed that to number two was infacy a failed root canal tooth and NEEDED to be extracted-

I got the appointment with the ENT- And they are recommending surgery. Surgery was supposed to be today.

John said he was “canceling ALL of my mom’s appointments”

I think it’s rather neglectful of him to continue to entertain such an idea, especially after two years has passed, and he hasn’t done anything to help my mom.
Why does he seem to think that he knows more than a Doctor? He hasn’t t even read their report- he hasn’t even cared enough to look at the imaging. John decided by himself, that he didn’t want anyone to know that my mom was suffering such a severe infection. John decided that he didn’t want anyone else to know- but i found out.
He’s also claiming that the dentist was “only trying to “get his money”

He’s also said the neurologist was “an idiot”

He says that the “sinus surgery was too risky” apparently. (There is nothing risky about removing infected tissues and blood clots from a sinus cavity).

John is claiming that i “violated hippa rights”- but my mother clearly reached out to me for help, and my mom allowed her brothers to coordinate with me, in choosing WHERE to make the appointments to address the issues that John ignored.

John went against doctors recommendations-

John has done manipulating advances, which reflects a lack of his ability to manage my mothers medical care, his failure to acknowledge my mothers needs, and has proven to be an unreliable advocate of my mothers wishes.

The ENT doctor called me and told me to get my mom over to surgery right now. I kept the phone on speaker, and John actually took her.
its a miracle. I am crying right now (joy)

I know how you feel about me💩

and I know that John is your favorite brother. 

I’m not trying to put a wedge between you and Jon absolutely not. I just want you to know, 

My mom is the only family that I have. 

If I lose my mom, I’ll have absolutely no one.

I have never seen any of my friends parents put a wedge between them and their siblings, or between them and their mother. 

How much harm could I have caused if I have always been excluded. 

You know, John has Calvin and Alex on a family plan, he has bought them several cars, motorcycles, he pays their car insurance, and he pays for their registration every year, he gives them money any time they ask for it. 

I have never accepted that from John- I have always paid my own way, I bought my own car, and I pay my own cellphone bill, I pay my own auto insurance, etc. I don’t ask for anything. I don’t ask for money. 

I’ve never STOLEN from him, and I don’t even care about inheritances. Tainted

Anyway, I’m glad you had a good Thanksgiving with Michael, you’re very lucky to have each other. 

I wish I could just have one peaceful moment without it being all about JOHNS FEELINGS.

UPDATE: sinus surgery🙏❤️